Wheelman
My best friend told me she was going to hang out with her boss's son. She asked me to cover for her with her boyfriend. If her boyfriend called, I was to say she's with me but in the shower or something like that. I didn't have a problem because I'd covered for her in the past.
The next day on the freeway she said she had something to tell me. She had sex a few times with her boss's son the night before. When I asked if this was a one time thing, she said it wasn't and she was going to see him again. Now I feel torn by the knowledge I have to keep from her boyfriend.
Cindy
Cindy, you're an oven mitt in your friend's kitchen. She thinks your function is to keep her from getting burned.
You cannot let another destroy your character. Don’t let her make you a liar, a hypocrite, and an accomplice in her behavior. In an armed robbery the driver of the getaway car is just as culpable as the one who held the weapon.
Wayne
(From the column for the week of September 11, 2006)
Jack And Jill
I have been best friends with Penny since high school. A few years later I became good friends with Jack. A year after this Penny and Jack began dating. I moved across the country and maintained both friendships through phone calls. However when I returned home, things changed.
I was suddenly single, and Jack professed he'd had feelings for me since we met. One night we went out together, and he got drunk. When I took him home, he groped me. I would have let it slide, considering his condition. But after getting him inside his apartment, he pulled me down on his bed. I immediately left, but kept the information to myself, not wanting to make waves.
We stopped spending time together. I cannot be friends with a man who will so easily cheat on his girlfriend. This week, while visiting Penny, she asked why I don't speak to her boyfriend anymore. Apparently Jack told her I have thrown our friendship away, and Penny is upset. I don't know what to tell her. She is considering marrying this man but telling the truth may lose her friendship
Hailey
Hailey, sometimes you can't win for losing, but when you have to lose, it's better to lose with the truth. Talk to Penny. Tell her three things. One, why you have to tell her what you are telling her. Two, what occurred with Jack. Three, why you didn't want to tell her.
Why must you tell? Because Jack is complaining to Penny without telling her why you are giving him the cold shoulder. Jack is lying to Penny because he wants to use her to get to you.
Penny may not believe you, and Jack will continue to lie. You cannot control their actions, but you can act to protect yourself. What do you know. It's unsafe to be alone with Jack.
Tamara
(From the column for the week of July 31, 2006)
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